Empowerment Through Being Powerless

Empowerment Through Being Powerless

Recently I posted a blog entitled Today Is Not That Day* which is an affirmation designed to help those suffering from the loss of a loved one. Affirmations are positive statements said to yourself to help uplift you from a negative to a more positive state of mind.

Since posting the blog Today Is Not That Day, I’ve been overwhelmed by requests for more affirmations to help cope with the passing of a loved one.

I was at a loss for what to say or do. The answer came to me during my recent Never Letting Go book signing tour of New York City where I was honored to visit the 9-11 Memorial. Watching the somber yet elegant memorial with its immense waterfalls flowing into the void was serene, yet I felt another emotion surge through me–anger. I was angry that such enormous pain was inflicted by cruel hateful fanatics upon so many innocent people—I felt powerless—and then it dawned on me—that’s the key to healing from the past—realizing I was powerless to change it.

How many times do you feel anchored to the chains of the past? Does  your mind replay a traumatic event over and over to the point you feel no escape from the pain? Do you find yourself looking to someone else for approval or validation?

You may not even realize how much the past has a grip over your feelings in the present and your view of tomorrow. Recently, I met a woman who told she didn’t go to her high school reunions because the “in” crowd never accepted or even acknowledged her. She admitted this made her feel badly about herself.

I told her, “You are powerless to change their behavior.”

“I never thought of it that way Mark, hearing that makes me feel better.”

Do you focus on events in your past which you feel “robbed” you of your validation, self-esteem or even happiness? Were you treated rudely or cruelly by someone? Maybe it was a family member, friend, classmate, co-worker, boss or stranger.

These negative emotions and experiences are intensified when linked to the death of a loved one. How many times have you wished you could go back in time and save someone’s life?

Given the opportunity everyone would go back in time to save the life of a loved one. With the ability to time travel you could change something about your childhood, career or relationship. You may even want to bring last Saturday night’s winning lottery numbers. As long as you’re swinging in to save the day you might as well become a millionaire—right?

Sounds great! But unless your eccentric genius neighbor Dr. Brown invites you to go for a spin in his DeLorean with its newly upgraded flux capacitor, it’s impossible to change the past.

On a serious note, people tend to feel responsibility for the terrible things which have happened to them whether or not they were at fault. This self-imposed burden of responsibility triggers anger, resentment, guilt, and depression which results in low self-esteem.

Realizing how powerless you are can empower your emotional healing.

When the darkness of negativity overwhelms you as your mind replays the death of a loved one, or some other trauma from your past, look to the Light of powerlessness.

Tell yourself:

“I am powerless to change the fact my loved one died.”

“I am powerless to change the past.”

“I am powerless to change his/her behavior.”

Accepting you are powerless to change the past or control the behavior of those who’ve wronged you in the past lifts the weight of responsibility from your heart. This leads to accepting you are the only one responsible for your actions and feelings. It also helps you understand while you cannot change the past, you must learn from it in order to grow personally.

By accepting you have no power to change the past you are now empowered to control the present. The road to healing is not an express lane but rather a long and winding road through many peaks, valleys, and detours, but ultimately you’re the one in the driver’s seat.

You may be powerless over yesterday but you are empowered today for creating a better tomorrow.


Mark Anthony the Psychic Lawyer®
Author of Never Letting Go and the soon to be released Evidence of Eternity


*For the full text of the blog Today Is Not That Day, please visit: http://www.evidenceofeternity.com/blog/today-is-not-that-day-3/

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4 Responses to Empowerment Through Being Powerless

  1. Erica says:

    My mom died in a traffic accident I had to have her life support machine turned off since then I have had the roughest time I still don’t know if I did the right thing did I do it too soon would she have lived if I had waited but they wanted an answer right then they said she had no brain waves that she was brain dead I cry all the time I don’t know if I will ever get over this

  2. lynne says:

    Erica, I am so sorry for your loss and that terrible choice you had to make. Somehow, I think that you knew it was the right choice at that moment. You might even have been assisted in making it by her spirit. I believe the soul knows when it must go, and perhaps she communicated that to you. I knew when I had to make a choice like that. Doctors had been pressuring me for a long time, but I was just the channel for the soul that was ready to pass.

  3. Eunice Mitchell says:

    Over and over, I hear how spirits of love ones are around us. If that is the case, how does a spirit be around you and reincarnate ? Are the spirits leaving us
    to have life again ?

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